Archive for June, 2016

Winning

Monday, June 27th, 2016

My coaching school just completed a 12 week question-asking competition.
I participated every week that I could, which was all but one.
Of the first 11 rounds, I made the top 10 results in 2 of those weeks.

Week after week, I took what felt relevant for me to learn from and I grew not only professionally, but also personally.

Regardless of the fact that I was often not ‘successful’ in my answers, simply from putting myself out there each week and playing the game, I felt I was winning as there were many things I gained each week through this process.

Turns out, the last scenario of the game was to ask a question of yourself from your higher coach.  I found a question that has been inspiring and motivating me every day since connecting to it.  So much so, that I already considered myself a big winner from all I am gaining each day as I ask myself this question now.

Today I learned I was the big winner of this final week’s question and the entire competition!
While the acknowledgment is fun, the truth is I already felt I won as a result of showing up each week to play, and receiving my own inspiration from this last personal question.

How do you define winning?

 

Fortifying yourself

Monday, June 20th, 2016

There are many times, especially within a family unit, when one person tends to receive the brunt of unfair treatment.

While we all contribute to the circumstances of our life, sometimes things don’t feel fair, and sometimes they aren’t.

It can be easy to want to make things worse when we feel this way, by fighting to prove our reality is right, or by bending over backwards to try to please the other person, when that may be wrong for us.

Most of the time in these situations, you’re best approach is to continue to behave in your most elevated fashion, while also removing yourself as much as possible from the situation and people where you tend to find yourself being a target for their negativity.

At the end of the day, what will always matter most is how we feel about ourselves.
When we know we are being and behaving our best, we can feel confident within and not personalize other people’s reactions to us unnecessarily.  From this place, we can maintain a healthy sense of self, and the boundaries necessary to stay strong in this way.

Acknowledging and Validating

Tuesday, June 14th, 2016

Regardless of whether or not you agree with someone’s feelings, it’s important to acknowledge and validate them when they express themselves to you.  The reason is this allows the person to know you have heard them.

The truth is most the time people only want to feel heard.
Even if they may ask you to agree with them, or fix what they are troubled by, you do not have to.
Yet you can still let the person know you understand where they are coming from.
In many situations, simply offering your genuine empathetic ear can make a world of difference for them.

Listening is a gift.

 

Anticipation

Monday, June 6th, 2016

While the present moment is all there ever is, your daily energy can be positively uplifted when you also have things in the future that you’re excited about.

Joyful anticipation makes the present more fun, and serves to attract even more exciting things your way.  The energy of positive anticipation actually creates a space for the Universe to fill with wonderful surprises.

Whether it’s a fabulous vacation, or a half-day staycation, a walk in the park with a dear loved one, or a special cake that you only have on your birthday, I invite you to enjoy today, while also having things ahead that foster your feelings of excitement in joyful anticipation now.