Archive for March, 2016

Love Your Loved Ones Best

Monday, March 28th, 2016

When we feel safe with our loved ones, it can become easy to let out our frustrations or insecurities on them.

Often we give our worst to those we love the best.  We release all our negative emotions on them because we believe they won’t leave us and we don’t feel comfortable to let them out on who they really belong to.

Unfortunately, over time, if you do this to your loved ones, you break down the connection.
The love may remain, but the relationship will suffer.

To me, I feel very strongly that I want to treat the people I love most in this world the very best.
I want them to feel the quality of my love for them, the depths of it, and the celebration of it.

This doesn’t mean I never get angry.  If I’m angry with one of them, I express it to them.
However, I do not use the ones I love the best as my whipping posts, or outlets for my anger that is unrelated to them.

I invite you to consider how you treat the people you love best in your life.
Do you give them your very best, or do you actually give them your worst?

 

Anger

Monday, March 21st, 2016

Every one gets angry sometimes…

If you dwell in it and do nothing about it, it will eat you up from the inside out.
If you ignore it and do nothing about it, it will eat you up from the inside out.

If you let yourself blow up with it, it will be destructive to you and all those around you.

Our responsibility when it comes to anger is to determine what we must address and with whom.
Our next responsibility is to express our anger in a constructive manner.
Our last responsibility is to then let the anger go.

We do this for ourselves, no one else.

As soon as anger starts flowing through you, I invite you to notice it, address it, and then release it.
In this way, you can maximize the gifts within the energy of your anger, and use it constructively to morph that energy into a higher vibration.

To Tell in Trust

Monday, March 14th, 2016

Sometimes we may hold ourselves back from sharing something with an important person in our life because we’re afraid of their reaction.  We don’t want to upset them, or cause them to be mad at us.  So we opt to say nothing at all.
Unfortunately this act of withholding information out of fear of the other person’s response can create a crack in the foundation of that relationship.
Trust is the foundation.

It’s important to be honest in your most intimate relationships.
Allow the other person to have their emotional reaction.  Try not to get defensive or personalize their response.
Keep in mind, emotions come and go.  They may fill the space with a temporary color, but as the emotion dissipates, so will the color.

Trust is a fundamental building block in all relationships.
Cracks created by distrust can cause relationships to crumble.
Truth maintains a strong foundation that enables relationships to withstand any burst of emotion that may travel through.

 

A Grudge

Tuesday, March 8th, 2016

The other day my husband did something that upset me.
After having a conversation with him about it, he listened, then acknowledged my perspective, and apologized for what had upset me.  I, however, wanted to hold onto my anger, my justified feeling.  I wanted to hold a grudge.

After a little more conversation, he said: “I can’t undo what I’ve done.”

In that moment, I realized that he had already given me the best response he could, and I was only hurting myself holding onto something that could never be undone.  I could keep bringing it into the present and let it cause me more pain and drama, or I could let it go, and focus on what I want to grow between us; our love, respect, and passion.

It can be hard to let go of wanting to hold onto that feeling of being right when you’ve been wronged.  When you do though, you’re being most right for yourself.