Archive for January, 2014

Little lifts….

Monday, January 27th, 2014

It’s so easy to feel weighed down by life’s challenges, and life by nature IS challenging.  Although it is often in these challenges where excitement, expansion and opportunity exist, and with a positive attitude can be found.

People tend to convince themselves that their happiness or improved existence is contingent on certain things being in place first.

However, if you can find pleasure in life’s daily little lifts; like whip cream on your morning coffee, cozying up in front of a fire or even a space heater with a good book or your favorite music, relishing a delectable treat, feeling the softness of a favorite sweater, sharing cuddles with a loved one or pet, laughing with a friend, or talking on the phone with someone who matters to you, then you won’t have to wait to be happy.

A day filled with lots of little lifts can be truly joyful, even amidst life’s most challenging times.

Transitions

Monday, January 20th, 2014

    It recently occurred to me why that most difficult period of childbirth during labor prior to pushing is called transition.  Transitioning is one of the hardest things to do.  It’s a period of being in limbo and often very uncomfortable, a fast moving space where you cannot stabilize yourself.

Traversing this liminal space from where you were to where you are going can be some of the most difficult to navigate.  During transition, there is nothing you can do but live through the pain and hold on, reminding yourself it will not last indefinitely.

Usually the transition periods in life are the most intense and also, fortunately, the quickest.  Pain at times in life is inevitable.  However, if you can surrender in the moment, knowing this phase is temporary,  it will diminish your suffering while you await the gift at the end of your transition, whether the gift is something you are aware of or will be a surprise.

 

Responsibility

Monday, January 13th, 2014

How well do you take ownership and responsibility for your life?

Do you find yourself blaming others or life circumstances for why you can’t be happy or feel good about yourself and your life?

While life by nature includes positive and negative elements, the negative elements often feel more dominant than the positive.  It can be easier to remain stuck and unhappy, complaining about why things are bad for you, rather than noticing what is good, and improving what isn’t working for you.  Blaming your spouse, your kid, your parent, or your lack of them, simply blaming your lot in life, can all be used as reasons why your life isn’t what you want it to be.  However, you have the power to adjust how you experience anything you don’t like.

While certainly people and experiences, starting in childhood, can impact you greatly, ultimately, it becomes your responsibility to process and overcome anything that does not promote your self-love.  You are the driver of your life’s journey.  It is up to you to decide where you want to go, how you want to get there, the speed you wish to travel, and most importantly, your attitude along the ride.

When you accept responsibility for your life, you have a chance to make it the best it can be!

Happy New Day!

Monday, January 6th, 2014

Not only is every day a new beginning, every moment of every day is a chance to do something differently if you choose.

We tend to make new year’s resolutions around this time of year, however, I propose new day resolutions.

Every day is your opportunity.  Every minute is a chance to create more of what you desire, be more of who you truly are, and evolve more into who you want to be.

Take responsibility for your life today, every moment.  It is all you have control over, and it is what you are responsible to control.

Make the most of today, every day.

May this year of 2014 be filled with your best days ever!