Archive for March, 2013

Stress

Monday, March 25th, 2013

It’s easy to blame others or circumstances for why you’re all stressed out.  Understandably, uncomfortable situations and emotions can feel stressful.  However, it is within your control to manage your reactions and reduce stress within yourself.

How can you begin to process the elements in your life that fill you with negativity and stress differently?

Rather than allow yourself to feel out of control and crave to be in control, if you can surrender to the moment and all that is within it, the positive and the negative, then you have a chance to reduce your stress.

Everyone gets good things and challenging things.  When you stop struggling against what you don’t like, and embrace all that is, you can focus on empowering yourself.  Empowerment comes from controlling how you experience the elements in your life, both positive and negative, rather than trying to control the elements themselves.

Mistake

Monday, March 18th, 2013

Everyone makes mistakes sometimes.

How well do you recover after making a mistake?
Do you acknowledge it?
Feel really badly?
Pretend it didn’t happen?

Are you able to learn from it and let go?
Can you find the opportunity for an even higher outcome in your life than what you had achieved prior to the mistake?

Start with forgiveness of yourself and anyone you may have hurt.  Then learn.

You will always make mistakes.  It’s how we learn.

What have you learned recently from a mistake?

Character Muscles

Tuesday, March 12th, 2013

Every time we find ourselves in a difficult situation, after acknowledging the pain and hardship, we can help ourselves through by recognizing the opportunity that is present.  Difficulties invite us to engage our character.  When we rise to the challenge, despite the sweat and tears, we are strengthening our character muscles.  As our character muscles grow, we become better prepared to navigate the journey of life while being able to appreciate the benefits that can arise from the more challenging times.

The next time you’re in the middle of a difficult experience, see it as being in “character gym”, and know that you’re getting stronger and more capable with every “work out”.  If you choose to go to the bar instead of the gym, you’re missing a chance to grow and expand yourself.

How developed are your character muscles currently?

Looking in the Mirror

Monday, March 4th, 2013

When someone gives you feedback, what is your initial response?  Perhaps you become defensive?  Or do you immediately get down on yourself?

While it’s true that people’s responses to you often have more to do with them than you, with people who are very close to you, there’s a good chance that you can gain from listening to the feedback they give you.  Even if you don’t agree completely, if you are willing to look at yourself through the lenses of the feedback, you can sift through and find the parts that do ring true to you.  This gives you a place to focus your efforts for personal improvement.

When we are willing to look at our own reflection, and take responsibility for changing the parts that are not bringing us the results we desire, especially in our most initimate relationships, we are taking the first step toward getting what we do want