Archive for January, 2013

Body Language

Monday, January 28th, 2013

Often when our body is speaking to us, we don’t like what it’s saying.  This is because we don’t listen to it when all is well.  Usually we take this state of being for granted, and only actually listen to our body when it hurts somewhere, or a rash or blister or pimple shows up that we can’t ignore.

Have you ever considered that your body is expressing meaningful things to you about yourself?

What might your body be telling you right now that if you stop and listen and respond respectfully to, could actually help you improve how your experiencing your life today?

Being versus Doing

Monday, January 21st, 2013

Societally, we tend to measure ourselves according to what we achieve externally.  These achievements are usually the results of doing.
It’s one of the first questions we ask people when we meet them, ‘What do you do?’

Yet we are human beings, not human doings.
How can we measure ourselves according to being – perhaps through our love, our inner peace, our energetic presence, our ability to connect meaningfully to another?

Rather than asking ‘what do you do’, what might we invite from others if we started asking, ‘how are you being?’

To push or not to push?

Monday, January 14th, 2013

Do you believe it’s possible to achieve a goal with a balanced approach?

There are times we all need to be pushed to move forward toward a goal, whether to get in shape, complete a project, or attain a dream.
Yet, when is it appropriate to give ourselves a break on the pathway of pursuit?
Will the break prevent you from continuing on your way toward achievement?
Or will it give you the rest you need to become reenergized and renewed in your focus and purpose toward your desires?

What do you believe is true?

Reflecting on your life to date, has it actually been true?

Being liked or being you

Friday, January 11th, 2013

Having published my first book, 3 Pillows Down, I am now open to some people liking me through my work, and others not, perhaps even taking it to the degree of others even ridiculing or attacking my work.  Now, being ourselves and being liked do not have to be mutually exclusive.  However, if you’re being your self, standing up for what you believe in, expressing thoughts that feel real and important to you, then you are achieving true expression that can invite others to contemplate and examine their own lives.  In this way, you are truly making a difference.

However, if your focus is on always pleasing others and being what you think they want you to be in order to gain their approval and be liked by them, then you are not being you.  You are not actually living your life, and ultimately you are not growing and achieving your own purpose.  It is near impossible to please everyone.

I used to want everyone to like me.  Then I realized, I must like myself.  From this place, I can be secure enough to handle other people’s responses to me, both positive or negative, of which I get both.  Really their responses are all about them anyway.  Yet if my own presence is strong enough and true to me, then I will more likely evoke response in others.  Some may adore me and others may abhor me.  Either way, I’m inviting them to think and examine something enough to create a reaction in them.  This is achievement!

Bonds of love

Monday, January 7th, 2013

Whether to a partner, a child, a parent, or a friend, how do you express your love?

How similar is it to how you express love to yourself?

How different is it?