Effort and a willingness to communicate through individual “realities” in order to find shared understanding and solution to move forward harmoniously is what makes relationships thrive.
When we shut down in relationship with another, due to anger, perception, or attachment to being right, we prevent the relationship from growing.
Language is challenging and necessary for communication. However, we all have trigger words, and definitions to words that someone else may or may not share. As a result, we don’t always hear people the way they are speaking. Even if we do, if we’re not happy with what we are hearing, unless we are willing to put the effort into clearing up something that feels wrong to us, we essentially halt the relationship.
Everything grows, or it withers and dies. This is true not only for plants and trees, but for relationships too.
Not all relationships will feel worth the effort. Everyone is allowed to make that choice.
However, if you want to grow yourself, and you want to grow with another, effort and willingness to put in the time and energy is what it takes.
What effort are you contributing to your relationships today?