Archive for the ‘Reflections’ Category

Relationships take effort

Monday, March 20th, 2017

Effort and a willingness to communicate through individual “realities” in order to find shared understanding and solution to move forward harmoniously is what makes relationships thrive.

When we shut down in relationship with another, due to anger, perception, or attachment to being right, we prevent the relationship from growing.

Language is challenging and necessary for communication.  However, we all have trigger words, and definitions to words that someone else may or may not share.  As a result, we don’t always hear people the way they are speaking.  Even if we do, if we’re not happy with what we are hearing, unless we are willing to put the effort into clearing up something that feels wrong to us, we essentially halt the relationship.

Everything grows, or it withers and dies.  This is true not only for plants and trees, but for relationships too.

Not all relationships will feel worth the effort.  Everyone is allowed to make that choice.
However, if you want to grow yourself, and you want to grow with another, effort and willingness to put in the time and energy is what it takes.

What effort are you contributing to your relationships today?

One in a Billion

Monday, March 13th, 2017

One time I told someone, who didn’t know me, that I was one in a million…As soon as I was called on it, I backed down to 1 in 500,000.
I’ve grown a lot since then…So has our population…Now I can comfortably say, I am one in a billion.

I believe everyone is one in a billion…However, many of us feel afraid of truly being who we are, our quirks, our idiosyncrasies, our likes, and dislikes.  We fear the judgment from others.  Although it’s really our own judgment that plagues us.  It is what we think about ourselves that makes us feel bad or good.

I am committed to being the one in a billion that I Am, loving even that which I may not like about myself, and being confident from the depths of my heart.

I invite you to be your one in a billion self too.

Validation

Monday, February 27th, 2017

When you receive validation from another, it can be wonderful…Like winning an award.
It is a recognition, and positive recognition always feels great.

However, when you require validation from others, in order to feel good enough, or to trust that your best efforts are worthy, you are setting yourself up to only feel good when others say so.

If I know I’m doing my best, and giving my all, with pure intention and from a place of love, then I validate myself as doing great.
Whether my efforts are received or appreciated by others, has much less to do with me, and much more to do with them.

I can only be who I am.  I am that I am.  This is everything.
From this vantage point, I can celebrate and enjoy validation from others, however, it is not the determinant of how I feel about myself.

External validation is fleeting.  Internal validation is sustaining.
I invite you to rely upon yourself.  You’re the one who really knows how you’re being.  Be someone you can easily validate.

Being Love

Monday, February 20th, 2017

We spend so much time “doing”, it is easy to forget we are human “beings”.

I believe Love is the only Truth in our world and our lives.  The more we are being Love, the more we are being our true selves.

How do you show your love?  Through words, through a smile, through a thought, through a hug…?

The more you show your love, the more love will be reflected back to you…Hug, kiss, hold, delight and celebrate the love that is in your life.
It is you.  It is life.

Be Love!

Releasing Resistance

Monday, February 13th, 2017

Last Wednesday, I flew from Tucson to Phoenix on my way home to Philadelphia…I had just enough time to crank up my cardio and run from one gate all the way to the next to board my second flight, when I noticed red writing after my flight on the information screen as I ran past.  Unsure what it was, I stopped only to discover my flight had been canceled, due to an impending snow storm that wasn’t suppose to start for 5 hours after I was scheduled to land.

I was pissed.  Sweat dripping under my coat from my running, enhanced with my anger, I was feeling very hot, and not in the way I usually enjoy feeling hot.

I observed myself not wanting to accept this change in plan.  I was already on my way.  What was I going to do now?

During this whole time, I continued to feel uncomfortable and unsettled within.

As soon as I let go of what I had expected to unfold, and what I thought I had wanted, I could embrace what was happening.  I determined the best plan of action, and then was able to find the silver lining that came with it, as I boarded the bus back to Tucson for another 24 hours with my sister.

Releasing the resistance enabled me to return to a centered space of peace within my being and to access joy for the unexpected gift I was gaining rather than the perceived loss.

As I moved into trusting that all was unfolding perfectly for me, I could be present again in the moment I was in, and enjoy the gems that were part of this unexpected experience.

How often do you resist what is?

Imagine Better

Monday, January 30th, 2017

During these times of chaos and polarized opinions, it is easy to feel angry, misunderstood, unseen, disgusted, offended…This is a lot of negative energy coursing through you.
I invite you to transmute the nature of this energy and use it to motivate uplifting, inspired action through your creativity and imagination.

The passion provoked during these times is fuel that can positively effect change in the world. However, the initial catabolic energy must be purified into anabolic energy to do good.  As you become increasingly elevated, you can access more of this power within to imagine and create better.

Imagine beyond limits. Imagine beyond fears.  Imagine with wild abandon.  Imagine the most magnificent, and then envision even more so…We have the power to make our world better.  We must imagine possibilities beyond hate and anger, into love and unification.

It is time for each of us to start imagining better.

Be it. Now

Monday, January 23rd, 2017

Rather than be unhappy about what you want that you don’t think you have or don’t think you are, I invite you to imagine you’ve already taken the necessary steps to become the very thing you desire…Whether it’s confidence, wealth, health, love, success…Imagine how you will feel when you’ve attained it…How will you act and behave?  How will you treat yourself and others?

Then start acting, behaving, and treating yourself and others in this manner, as if it’s already so.
Be the manner you believe you will be once you reach your dreams and goals.
And follow through on the tangible action steps that support you in continuing to grow more of your dreams and goals.

This is the practice that will attract to you, sustain, and expand that which you desire in your life.

Feel it.
Follow through.
Be it.  Now

It is none of your business…

Monday, January 16th, 2017

When you live according to external validation from others, and negative interpretations of self as an inner dialogue, it is easy to believe that other people make us do things, make us not do things, feel certain ways, not feel certain ways…

The solution is to not personalize others, positively or negatively.
Instead, stay connected to your truth, what you think about yourself.
If it’s not agreeable, explore what you want to shift to become better for you.
If agreeable, however, trust that is enough, and then choose what you want to do,
how you want to feel, who you want to be…
This IS your business!

 

Getting Hooked

Monday, January 9th, 2017

Our holes are our tender spots – the areas within ourselves where we believe we are lacking, limited, or not good enough.
Our insecurities make these areas easy for us to get hooked by someone else’s bait and wire.
The more we live based on external validation, the more we live in a state of anxiety and susceptible to the hooks of others.

However, the more we internally validate ourselves, the more we can live in peace as we eliminate our holes from the reach of other people’s hooks.  As we trust we are good enough, limitless, and abundant in our worthiness, we fill in our holes with our own love.
This supports us in being balanced and empowered, so we no longer are able to be hooked by others, regardless of their efforts.

 

Catch Up With Your Reflection

Monday, January 2nd, 2017

The new year often brings with it motivation for self-improvement.

As you contemplate how you want to grow and expand yourself this year, I invite you to first take a really good look at who you are today.
Sometimes we miss seeing our growth.  We keep expecting and believing ourselves to be how we used to be. We don’t even realize what we have become.

My guess is if you take an honest look at yourself, wearing glasses of self-love, you may be surprised by how amazing you are, even more so than ever!

Before deciding what you want the next level of your expression to be, I invite you to celebrate all you are today as you catch up with your reflection…